The Singular They: Grammar vs. Style

Jay Stooksberry
3 min readMar 14, 2022

Lately, I’m seeing versions of the following rant: “The singular ‘they’ is grammatically incorrect. If you don’t know the gender of the subject, then you should default to ‘he’ or ‘it.’”

People often confuse grammar and style. Many think they know the former, when, in reality, they are just reflexively reciting some version of the latter they learned in grade school.

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Jay Stooksberry

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